A million fathers are needed to help raise confident intelligent, positive, motivated and stable young ladies. Research has shown that a father’s involvement in the academic lives of their children will last beyond their childhood; in fact their influence will expand well into the child’s early adult lives (Rosenberg & Bradford, 2006).
Fathers have an accountability and responsibility to teach their daughters that their bodies and minds are not the place for temporary visitors, and that their minds and bodies are temples that should be respected, nurtured, protected and valued. Their minds and bodies are not places for chaos, confusion, torture, drugs and multiple visits by multiple men and multiple ejaculations.
The duties of a father are to guide, teach, mentor, provide correct discipline, offer support, and engage their daughters with high self esteem and social wisdom.
In The National Center for Fathering Gallup Poll, 97% of children participants suggest that fathers need to do more to be involved in the their children’s education. Children need to see their fathers visiting their schools. As an elementary school educator I hear girls state they wish that their fathers’ would visit them, to eat lunch and to speak with teachers.
I see the pride and the love girls have as their fathers walk them to class when they do visit, arrive to eat lunch with them and provide hugs and kisses before they leave.
The United States is ranked 17th in Math and 24th in Science (“Barrington Irving: Teaching From the Skies”). Imagine how much better our girls and boys can be if fathers are more active and then the impact to our nation.
What has happened when girls are dressed up like they are two or three times their age? And is it cute to cuss and perpetrate being older? There is a fine line between cute and pretty, and sleazy and sexually suggestive. The use of Social Media is showing us that more girls are violent, sexually promiscuous and verbally violent with profanity. The absence of fathers as models and being pro-active teachers is seen in schools and churches.
There was a time when fathers taught their girls to be ladylike, intellectually quiet, socially polite, cordial and learned in the social graces that allow girls to create the perceptions of social acceptance. Girls must be taught the skills, abilities, wisdom, and strength to compete when it comes to being successful in a competitive world.
This school year, schools across this nation need a million fathers to support their children. Fathers, grandfathers, uncles, step-fathers and other men in communities, and those of the clergy are allowing schools to be closed in our nation’s cities.
Men of Color should be volunteering at their children’s schools, chaperoning field trips, eating lunch at least five times a month, attending parent/teacher meetings and school board meetings. Women are rising in the poverty statistics of this nation and in order to compete need to obtain a quality education. Fathers are key to emphasizing how important education is. President Obama has stated that, “the best antipoverty program is a quality education.” Fathers, support your children’s education.
Classroom discipline issues are on the rise, the school to prison pipe line is flooding like the pipes of crude oil flowing from the Middle East to the United States. In each case billions of dollars are being made. Children of Color are worth more in the prison systems than they are in the educational systems. Slavery is still strong and growing in the 21st century. Even as the March on Washington has shown there are still injustices, People of Color especially fathers need to be proactive and involved.
There are hundreds of thousands of Fathers of Color doing the “Right Thing,” but there needs to be “Millions of Fathers of Color” doing more. Fathers need to be reading to children, sharing wisdom’s of life, mentoring and taking children to libraries, visiting museums, and attending cultural events.
Daughters, step-daughters, granddaughters and nieces need the wisdom of the men in their lives. If men don’t take the time to teach their daughters the streets will.
In the spirit of Fatherly solidarity:
Every Father and Every Man in America Should
Take A Child to School on the First Day of School and stay involved to the last day of school
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By contributing writer
Wm Jackson, M.Ed.
Parent, Mentor and Speaker
Blogging at My Quest To Teach